Do you know how to handle your intensity?

Do you perceive yourself as a intense person? Do you know how to handle it daily? Do you know how to drown and keep breathing? Or just keep going but don’t know exactly the way you survived all these years?

Laura Oliveira
4 min readMar 11, 2019

These are some questions that I make to myself and sometimes for others, with the hope that one day I’ll find a answer. I feel like as even the Google can’t help me in this situation, because intensity it’s a pain from the soul, and it’s so lyrical to put in a simplistic logic phrase or explanation.

For several years I locked this lilte monster inside of me, always trying to protect it at all costs, because even been a monster, it’s my litle demon pet, that I can’t get off from it, so I started to try to be good with it. Months ago I realized that the world needed to see it, to learn from it, and with one step at time, text by text, I’m showing up it more. And besides bring knowledge to people, I wanted to bring some kind of consolation to other intense people. Because just one intense person know the pain and the pleasure to feel everything, and even that I can’t hug you and tell that “It’s ok, everything going to be alright. I imagine how painful is feel everything, but you’re bigger and stronger than this situation, you’ll find a way out.” The objective is to confort you with some sweet words, beucase I know the difference that it makes to someone that feels everything.

So if you’re intense, feel like overflow with joy or pain, if you can feel fisically the chest tighten because of your pain, even if the science says that’s impossible, but you feel it anyway. I want you to know that you’re not alone, I understand you and I wished to hug you right now and make you feel understood and protected, even if for few minutes. Exist several people out there like me, like you, but they’re just like us, but they”re afraid to let the litle demon go out. And you know what? Deep inside I still believe that out there maybe we still can find courageous people just like us, or even more, that will dive deep inside in our stormy and violent sea will love the danger that will deal with a intense person. Meanwhile keep your demon pet safe, accept it, choose wisely who will see it. And It’s ok if you make wrong decisions, because life is a big game of tries, and to learn we need to make mistakes. Keep in mind that the pain bring a immeasurable knowledge, but it’s up to you choose see it as a master.

Learn how to distribute your intensity between the diversity of things of your life; stay strong (even if you feel broken inside sometimes); let all the emotions flow through your veins (pain or joy); train your mind to focus on what really matter in you life YOU; put yourself in the podium of your life, beucase you’re most important than anything else, because in the end it’s just you for yourself.

All these advices that I’m giving to you came from experience, and I would love that someone like me had said it to me when I started to experience pain in the soul. Already that I didn’t met nobody like this, at least I can be this kind of person.

Just one last thing, remember that it makes part of who you are, you can’t cut it off, pretend that didn’t exist or hide it forever. Because like you I know that it makes you you feel alive, give color to everything, it’s your dopamine, so please let the world see this stupendous thing. You have a incredible power in your hands, in your heart, and even been painful, the world need it from you, from me, from all of us.

Spread out your wings and lead this amazing thing for the people that cross your life.

What your pointview about intensity? Leave your comment down below and let me know ;) Or if you prefer, you can email me in this address: laura.regina.cp@gmail.com

Written by Laura Oliveira

March 11, 2019.

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Laura Oliveira

A young woman that feels extremely facinated in studying new things, cultures and worlds. And in her free hours let the imagination play around with the words.